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I WANT TO BE A SUPERHERO by InLoveAndWar

So you have a challenge you've been facing lately & you can't seem to find a solution. Sure, you might have tried a few things, but nothing's clicking. The puzzle piece just won't fit. When you want to be zigging, you end up zagging.

So, ask yourself:

What would your hero do?

Join me by answering this question in the comments section!

You can find all of the Tough (Question) Tuesday installments here.

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By Ashley Brooke Inzer of Experiment31, who also encourages you to download the file for free. So friggin' cool, right?

If you're anything like me, you're being challenged right now, & all you can see is what's going wrong: I made the wrong choice, I'm feeling the wrong (aka bad) feeling, I'm afraid to choose wrong.  But what is you flipped that thinking on it's head & asked the question:

What are you doing right?

Yup, I'll start off the comments by answering the question in the next few minutes. Hope you'll join in!

You can see all of the Tough (Question) Tuesday installments here.

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Yes You Can by theloveshop

I got a comment recently from James, who was looking to stop his lazy ways & get his butt in gear. He knows he's talented, but mindless web surfind & video games are getting in the way of kicking some butt & reaching his goals. I have a feeling that this question could apply to him as well as to everyone else, so think of that goal you know you could reach & ask yourself:

What's the smallest step you can take?

I'll start us off in the comments. Please join me in finding that one small step & commiting yourself to take it!

You can read all of the Tough (Question) Tuesday installments here.

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“Just Let It Go,” from Kotama Bouabane's Melting Words, found via Design in Mine

As usual, think of that one goal that's been alluding you, or you're having trouble grasping. Think of the roadblocks that have gotten in your way. Now ask yourself:

What's the one habit you need to change?

As usual (again), I'll start us off in the comments with the answer to this question. It's going to be a good one for me!

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Nothing's Impossible by BecauseICantPaint

There's been this air around me of fear-conquering, and I don't know why. Maybe because Luke asked me if I really wanted to take those trapeze lessons recently, and I've started really thinking about it even though I read a play-by-play of climbing up the tall ladder & it almost made me pee myself. Maybe because this post made me actually want to ride an upside-down roller coaster, while an old part of me says, “No you don't!” (but the new part of me says, “Yes you do!”). Maybe because Wreck This Journal became Scared of my Journal. Maybe because I didn't have a client for two weeks, and three weeks later I have 7 - the most I've coached at once. Maybe it's because I was so scared to get started with group coaching, and yet my first session is on Thursday.

So, your tough question today is this:

What have you done that you never thought you would do until you did it?

As usual, I'll kick off the comments by answering this question. Hope you'll join me!

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Don't Give Up Print by printliberation, found via kind over matter

After reading You Don't Have to Be the Best on Unclutterer,  it got me thinking about all that creative joy that's been crushed because it wasn't The Best (says you). So, I wanted to ask you kids:

What's a goal you've walked away from that you want back?

If you find yourself getting stuck, think about what you used to love to do that you don't do any longer, & see how/if it fits into your life now in any capacity. Erin, the author of this post, doesn't have to go back to 16 hours a week at the ballet barre, but maybe she wants to find a 90 minute class once a week that allows her to piroutte to her heart's content.

I'll be chiming in with my answer in the comments section, and I might just even cry a little (thankfully this ain't a vlog post!). Join me, even if you're smiling.

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Getting Out Of My Own Way by artsyville

There's probably something in the back of your mind that is calling you, but, for whatever reason, you're letting the phone ring & ring & ring. There's a reason that you're not answering, & it might just be because you're convinced that you're not The Best. “Why answer the call if I can't be perfect? Be right? Be the expert? Be guaranteed to be a success?”

I have a little itty bitty feelin, though, that you may just be kinda sorta almost selling yourself short just by a little itty bitty teensy weensy bit. Even if you're not the expert on what's waiting at the end of the line, even if this is all new to you, even if you're scared to put yourself out there, you should still ask yourself:

What do you have to offer?

Meet you in the comments section! Boy, this is a scary one…

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Out of the Box by Heidi Burton

Yup…I stole this Tough (Question) Tuesday right from the illustration above! Think about all of the decisions you're currently trying to make (even if they're serious ones!) & ask:

What decision would your inner child make?

Join me in the comments section with your response (otherwise I'll feel very, very lonely…)!

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Look on the Bright Side - Love & Peace Series by myzoetrope, found via kind over matter

Do you see the light at the end of the tunnel, but have trouble believing you'll reach it, nevertheless go through it & wind up on the other side? Then ask:

How can you remember to be optimistic about your goal?

Join me in the comments section with your reply! Read ya there! (As opposed to “see ya there!”, because technically, we can't see each other…sorry. I should just quit while I'm ahead).

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This is one of the many cards you can personalize & mail for free at Cardstore.com, starting today!

Think of that crappy thing that just happened to you. Yeah, you know the one. Your plumbing exploded, or you lost your job, or your fish passed away (the last one just happened to me. RIP, Snoop Fishy Fish). Super sucky.

Let yourself feel it for a while. Wallow, if you must. Now ask yourself:

If there's a lesson to be learned here, what is it?

Join me in the comments section to answer this tough question. Silver lining, people…

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TomorNow by wordboner

Close your eyes right now. Well wait, not right now, because then you can't read the rest of this post. Leave your eyes open, & think about that one thing you feel that you “should” do, or you “want” to do, or you “need” to do, but that you haven't put the wheels in motion for yet. Now ask yourself:

What's the risk for not taking action?

OK, now you can close your eyes. But open them back up & join me in your comments section with your answer. Otherwise, I'll think you're sleeping…

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go confidently by Mara Girling, found via pecannoot

Take something you think you absolutely can't do, but want to do. It's probably something scary, even if it's exciting & you know it would be fulfilling. Now:

What happens when you imagine doing it?

Don't skimp out on this one! Take 10 minutes right now to close your eyes and really envision it – the sights, the smells, the feelings, the tastes…..then join me in the comment section to describe what happened!

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Live What Your Love by Hijirik Studio, found via design is mine

I have to admit, I stole this question from Unclutterer. While they mean for you to ask it about your stuff (& I'm so doing it now that I'm packing up. I wanna get rid of everything!), I think you can ask it about your life.

So, think of your obligations: your job, your friendships that you might think are going sour, all those extracurricular activities that are clogging up your free time. Now ask yourself:

Does this make my life better? and/or Does this add value to my life?

Join me in the comments section for some uncluttering!

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Take Risks by wordboner

On Thursday I'm putting up a new Grown-Up Gigs, & while I don't want to give it away (suspense!), I read something there that was eye-opening, even in it's simplicity.

“… that's a common theme with all our [career transition] people. Now I'm not saying that they're not worried or anxious about changing careers. Many of them have no choice. They've lost jobs. They reach dead ends. But at a certain point, they all take a risk, even if that risk is simply acknowledging that what they've been doing no longer works.”

So……What's the risk you're going to take?

Join me in the comments to answer this super scary question (if I acknowledge it's scary, does that make it less so?)!

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storm by artsyville

I'm not gonna sugarcoat it: This week sucks. We've been packing for weeks to move out of our rental apartment (lease is up on Saturday!), & have been going back & forth since Oct 8th as to the closing date of our new apartment. At first we thought we'd close the week of Oct 19th. Then it was the week of Nov 9th. Then it was Oct 28th. Now it's the week of the 2nd. There's still no date set & nothing firm in site. The bad hours make me wonder why I still have hair (haven't I ripped it out by now?), while the good hours make me think, “I'm healthy & have someone awesome to go through this with & I'll always have a roof over my head. Stop being a baby.”

But it boils down to this:  How can you accept what's beyond your control?

If you've learned this lesson yet, please share in the comments section (please! I beg you!). If you're facing something beyond your control, join me in trying to piece together how to accept it/not wind up bald.

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Lend Me Your Wing by Kelli Murray Art, found via kind over matter

My vlog yesterday was all about what-you-can't-control-itis, & part of dealing with what you can't control is to ask for help. Take something off your plate. Learn something from an expert.

Now think about that challenge that has you stuck. Whether it's plain ol' overwhelm, or thinking you'd be great in a job that you don't really know anything about, or that you need to find space to paint…..

What can you ask for today?

Join me in the comments section with your request!

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Hope by blue bicicletta

I didn't realize it until I saw this print, but hope IS what you climb a mountain for.  You have big dreams, & you want to make it to the top. That's where your hope lies when you're down on the ground.

What are you hoping for today, & are you willing to make the climb?

Join me in the comments to share/bare your soul. It's less scary if we all do it (hint hint nudge nudge)

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In Case Of Emergency Breakdance, originally uploaded by mooosh ♥ miso funky, found via kind over matter

This is genius, & made me think of the juxtaposition (SAT word!) between “emergency” & “breakdance”. For me, it's “In case of emergency, freak out / yell / pick your fingers / cry / turn into Scary Spice.” But if I think of it as, “Hey! It's an emergency – time to breakdance!” then I might actually, uh, look forward to the emergency.

I think I just blew my own mind.

So, this week's question gotta be:

What can you take less seriously?

Join me in the comments to commit to make something more playful. It doesn't mean it's not important or “serious”, it just means that you can rephrase it to make it a bit (just a bit!) more joyful. Or silly. Or fun.

Live a little, will ya?

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natalie by jess gonacha swift

In the past 2 years, I've been focusing a lot on saying “no.” As a people pleaser, saying “yes” came easily & too quickly & often got me where I didn't want to be (or gave me agita in trying to un-yes it).  Now, “no” comes easy, & I find myself blocking out what I want to say “yes” to & convincing myself I don't have the time, or that I have a higher priority that is more deserving of my attention. Things that are important to me are slipping away, or not getting the attention they deserve.

So, join me in answering the question:

What can you say “yes” to today?

See you in the comments section!

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fortune, originally uploaded by simple effulgence , found via kind over matter

I started reading The War of Art on the subway today, & after just 33 pages I know it'll only be a matter of time before it's dog-eared & well-loved. The first part of the book is about resistance, & how it's the vampire that welcomes all of our vices so that we just won't start pursuing our dreams.

Since I'm asking it to myself, I'd love to know:

What are you resisting?

Whether it's tangible (leaving my job, writing a novel, dropping that friend) or intangible (resting, a great big laugh, feeling joyful), please share it in the comments section. I'll be right there with ya!

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Don't Fit In on wordboner

As the year winds down & I'm thinking of what I want 2010 to look like, I've become very focused on how I'm different from The Pact, & how I can express that so that it's noticeably obvious to everyone. It's tougher than it seems, as most of us spend our whole lives (at least our childhood) trying to not seem “weird” or “quirky” or whatever other wonderful adjective the world at large doeesn't embrace.

So let me ask you today:

How do you not fit in?

I'll be exposing my quirks (I love my quirks!) in the comments section. Hope to see you there!

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Mixed Signals – Fresh Start uploaded by lunchboxbrain, found via kind over matter

Can you smell it? A New Year's a-coming! 2010 is gonna be chock full of Fresh Starts for me, & they've become a whirlwind of “hooray!”s in my head. Once I get ‘em out on paper, I'll share the changes you can expect to see in this blog, on my site, & in my business in general. OK, I'll probably share some personal stuff too. You guys are so allowed to read my diary.

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Spam One Liners: Happy Life by Linzie Hunter

As you focus on your goals/intentions (not resolutions! Find out why on Spring next week!) for 2010, ask a very simple (but often overlooked) question:

Will (your goal here) make you happy?

If you don't know or you're not sure, close your eyes & see that goal coming to fruition (I love that word, “fruition”). If you meet it's end with a shrug, then cross it off your list or revise it until it excites you. If you see the finish line in your mind's eye & you're full to bursting, then keep that image & that feeling in your front pocket & carry it with you on your journey.

I'll be dissecting my plans for 2010 in the comments section. It won't be anything like 7th grade science class (am I the only one who thinks of frogs whenever I hear the word “dissection”?) No blood – I promise. Hope you'll join me!

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Resolve by Creative Kismet

These are resolutions I can get behind, even though I've recently decided that “resolution” is a dirty, dirty word. These read more like intentions, which I think is a sweet, sweet word that almost provokes me to hug it. Yes, the Spring girls have made me think long & hard about intentions, and how they differ from goals & resolutions, & why they're superior in a lot of ways.

Last year, my intention for 2009 was one word: Focus. That word drove a lot of my goals & action items. Because of that, I've learned to focus (aka not have my Gmail open every minute of the day, do one thing at a time before going on to the next, not put too much on my plate) pretty damn good this year. Now I've disclosed that my 2010 word is “Simplify.” Even if you don't answer any other questions from my 1 Thing post, answer this:

What's your intention for 2010?

Whether it's a word, a phrase, a sentence or a paragraph, share it in the comments section & then write it down & put it in an often-seen place (or places)!

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I am so proud of me by teaforthoughts

OK, twist my arm, I'll admit it: I'm so very proud of me. To the Newsweek video interview that's supposed to be live tomorrow (aaaaahhhhhh!) to ensuring that my site is ready for re-launch by then to taking many, many, many (many many!) steps in creating this life that is my purpose, even if I'm still reaching, reaching, reaching to get there (& while I have an immediate finish line in mind, I know it'll be an everlasting journey that is mine to create)….I'm doing it, I've done it, and I'm proud of me.

What are you proud of today? (If it's really early by you & the day's barely begun, then share what you're proud of you for doing/being yesterday. It's not cheating.)

It can be big, it can be small, it can be for an action or an intention or a thought or just a word. It all counts! You better comment about it, too – I want nothing but love here this week for my birthday on Thursday!

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Flying Girl Cuts It Away or Let Go of All That is Not Yours by Rowena Murillo (of the fab blog Warrior Girl)

I won't lie -I'm feeling a bit of Overwhelm lately. There's a lotta stuff on my plate – a lot of it things I want to do, which makes it tough to prioritize – and I'm starting to get a case of the Shoulds. Do you feel the same?

Then join me in asking yourself this:

What “should” do you want to let go of?

I'll join you in the comments with my answer to this question, which may surprise you. It surprised me, once I realized it.

Suspense!

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The Tiny Little Adventurous Bird by FreyaArt

Even with all the fantabulous stuff that's been going on with me lately, I'm still feeling the agita as to whether or not I'll “make it” as a full-time coach. So, instead of thinking of this as my Goal or My Life's Purpose (ack! scariness!), I've decided to think of it as An Adventure. That frame of thinking – that my Goal isn't the end-all-be-all-most-important-thing-of-my-life-ever – certainly keeps me focused on enjoying the journey, making sure there's fun involved & seeing where these opportunities lead – which is what the Grown-Up (& innerpreneur) in me wants to focus on!

Join me in the comments by answering:

What's your next adventure?

Ooh, I love this! Is anyone else thinking of themselves in a Western with a lasso? No? Uh…me neither – if it was opposite day!

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Be Nice To Yourself by laurageorge

What with the bath I finally allowed myself last week, I realized that the person that's meanest to myself  is me. Not counting some Mean Girls at work. They suck big time. If I was as mean as them I'd have no friends. But I'm not counting them because they are so not my friends. OK, let's rephrase: out of all of my friends, I'm the meanest to myself. So not cool of me. Do you feel the same? Like you're your own worst enemy? Like if someone said to you what you think to yourself, you'd classify them as “a mentally ill asshole“, but since you say it to yourself it's not only OK but valid?

Well, let's take that Mentally Ill Asshole Vampire that lives in your head (is it comforting to know that we all have one in our own heads?) & kick him in the shins.

What aren't you being nice to yourself about, & how you gonna start?

You know how this works by now. Meet you in the comments section!

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#313 at Things We Forget

OK, I admit it: I ditched my Me Time this weekend. There was just no time for Me to be found in my Sunday, heavy with a hangover & Things To Do. And while I know those 90 minutes would have been much-needed, I chucked them away. Even Luke said to me, “It's your Me Time now” (I put it on my calendar, so it pops up on our computer a few minutes beforehand) & I responded, “I know. It's just not going to happen.”

So today, on a random Tuesday, for no special occasion, I'm going to give myself that Me Time. Not that 90 minutes – that would be too tough, & too easy to let go – but something, whatever I can do. I'll share what it'll be in the comments & hope that you answer my tough question there, too:

What are you going to do for yourself today?

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#315 by Things We Forget

I'm taking fantabulous group coaching sessions lead by the super cute Coach Cassandra Rae called the Simply Fearless Fempreneurs. As I'm focusing more & more as to what my full-time coaching practice is gonna be like, I'm focusing more & more on having it be a values-based business. I want some clarity as to which projects/ideas/routines I have in my head are really serving/going to serve me, & what I really want to be working on. It's funny, because there are so freakin' many things I want to do with this business (ebooks, regular books, in person coaching, workshops, retreats, yada yada yada) it's hard for me to prioritize ‘em & allow myself to really determine what's most important. But that's not the point of this question.

The point of this question comes from the first session of those group sessions, where the idea of focusing on what's working was really driven home for me. If I can see & focus on what's working (as opposed to what's not working), then I can get to the quick of what's worth looking at even further – and I can better identify the things I'm doing that I should (you know I hate that word “should”, but the context here is OK) keep doing.

So, ask yourself:

“What's working?”

If it's too broad a question, then think of the specific goal or challenge you've been working on. It might be hard to see at first (that's why I call it Tough (Question) Tuesday, people) but I promise that it's there.

Last one to the comments section is a rotten egg!

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Pen's Dear John letter to fear, found via Magpie Girl

I've been realizing lately that fear is not the enemy – it's just a roadblock that I'm meant to kick over in it's big, fat, stupid face. And while I'm friggin' scared about dumping Corporate America (forever!), & I'm scared that I'm gonna fall flat on my face at this whole self-employment thing, I'm oh so excited & oh so trustful that this is gonna work (goddamit!).

So, dream with me for a moment, & answer the question:

What would you do if you weren't scared?

Come join me in the comments section. Don't be scared (sorry – couldn't resist).

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Anyone Can Hide by technicolor.dreams & found via Kind Over Matter

I Know…:

• …that I'll always have a parachute of people to catch me when I fall.
• …that I don't have to do anything that I don't wanna do.
• …that the best person to care for me is me.
• …that “should” is a 4-letter word.
• …that there's no such thing as “failure” or “right” choices if I'm staying true to my uniquity.
• …that busy does not equal productive which does not equal successful.
• …that every experience I experience I've experienced for a positive outcome, even if I'm oblivious to it at the time.
• …that I have a crapload of awesomeness to offer.
• …that I can wear blue nail polish & still be a professional grown-up.
• …that I'm real, real good at this coaching thing.
• …that the present moment is all that really matters.
• …that money is not the key to happiness – love & laughter are.
• …that I will be the best boss I've ever had.
• …THAT I CAN DO THIS GODDAMMIT!
• …that fear is not the enemy…just merely an obstacle.
• …that it's possible to trust fully & completely, yet still be scared out of your gord.
• …that Vampires are made to be slayed.
• …that I'm ready.
• …that life is too short to not life it with passion & purpose.
• …that life is an adventure & I'm just along for the ride.

What do you know?

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1. Tough (Question) Tuesday: How do you not fit in?
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3. Tough (Question) Tuesday: What’s your role in the world?

Magnet by Aimee of Artsyville. Put these back in your shop, Aimee!

Believe it or not, with all the excitement going on, I couldn't think of a “good” question (isn't that such a relative word?) for today's installment of Tough (Question) Tuesday. So I started looking through my Inspiration folder on Evernote (yup, I clip all the images that I come across that excite me & keep ‘em there for a rainy day/blog post) & came across this wonderful saying from Aimee. It got me thinking about how I'm taking myself away from an environment where I most certainly do not bloom (thank you very much!), & into one where I thrive. I grow. I stretch. I reach. I spark. I love. I connect. I bloom.

So tell me, tell me:

Where do you bloom?

Do you need a lot of sunlight, fresh air & water? Do you need a quiet room & a paintbrush? Do you need a bathtub full of suds & a glass of wine? Think about where you feel inspired, & inspiring. Think about where you are & what you're doing when the time flies & it's been nothing but fun.

Then tell me, tell me your bloomin' place in the comment section so I can help you till the soil.

Wow, this was a good analogy.

Related posts:

1. Tough (Question) Tuesday: What do I definitely not want any more of?
2. Tough (Question) Tuesday: What’s the most obvious question you can ask yourself to get closer to the outcome?
3. Tough (Question) Tuesday: What does your heart want?

MOMENTS CAN BE MONUMENTS by lakeillustration

OK, OK, I get the hint, Universe! After reading the posts Spiritual Conundrum & Do You Live Like a Hummingbird? within an hour of each other, & after experiencing my first “real” morning as an entrepreneur (more on that tomorrow!), I know what I need to keep reminding myself:

Are you living in the present?

This doesn't mean that I'm going to automatically become a slacker, putting my Big Ideas & Projects on the backburner. Hell to the no! However, I know that the best way to get it all done, stay sane & enjoy the journey (all at the same time!) is to keep breathing & repeatedly ask myself that question above. You only have two eyes – if one is focused on the future & the other is still looking at the past, then who's making note of the present, where joy & happiness lives?

I know this is a super tough question today (even a philosophical / existential one!), but take your best shot at it in the comments section. We're all here to acknowledge & support ya!

Oh, and to everyone celebrating Passover (like me!), I hope it's a good one filled without too many pizza cravings!

Related posts:

1. Tough (Question) Tuesday: What’s the most obvious question you can ask yourself to get closer to the outcome?
2. Tough (Question) Tuesday: What does your most successful future look like?
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Practice Saying Only Nice Things by dwell deep

In my Simply Fearless Fempreneurs (try saying that 5 times fast!) session on Friday, we were asked to write what became clear for us this past week. Without hesitation, I wrote “If I'm not nice to myself, it doesn't matter if anyone else is.” This has been both my biggest lesson & my biggest challenge in the short time of being a full-time entrepreneur, but I have to say that I've been doing well in keeping an open mind, taking deep breaths,  not working myself to the point of drop dead-dom, & literally & figuratively patting myself on the back.

During that same session, I spoke with Coach Cassandra about the challenge I've been facing in prioritizing the projects I want to work on, & how I've been resisting just picking one & running with it. It was then that she asked:

What's the choice that'll treat you the nicest?

It immediately brought up that feeling: of fun, of peace, of accomplishment, of ease. “The free download!”, I responded enthusiastically. Then I put a structure in place so I could have time every day to work on it. Look for it this month! Yay!

Projects & decisions &, um, life don't need to be hard. I repeat: “Life doesn't need to be hard.” Pretty mind-blowing, huh? Think of the challenge you're facing today, go immediately to the choice that'll treat you the nicest, & then share it in the comments (because we're nice). It's nice to be nice!

Related posts:

1. Tough (Question) Tuesday: Is there anything in this situation I can find to be grateful for?
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3. Tough (Question) Tuesday: What does your heart want?

Boost by shellypaints

I am in love with the print above! Thinking of the cow needing clearance to jump over the moon made me think of how we all need support to get from Point A to Point B, whether it's from ourselves or others. And that brought me to today's Tough (Question) Tuesday (yay inspiration!):

How can you give yourself a boost?

Jumping over the moon isn't something you should be doing yourself, that's for sure. Join me in the comments section with your answer & we'll clear the moon-jumping path for each other!

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Great Giveaway! Win a fantastically awesome print from Artsyville.

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1. Tough (Question) Tuesday: How do you get out of a funk?
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3. Tough (Question) Tuesday: What's working?

Quit Your BellyAching by orangebeautiful

Coaching.

Watching the Thurs night NBC line-up.

Listening to They're All Gonna Laugh at You or watching Billy Madison or Happy Gilmore. (Yes, I am a 32 year old woman! Did you think I was a 14 year old boy, per chance? Nope – but my sense of humor is.)

Forcing myself to dance to Blister in the Sun.

Reading a book & drinking a glass of wine in my Comfy Chair overlooking the Manhattan skyline.

Acknowledging my wins on paper.

Listing everything I'm grateful for.

Talking to a great friend that I've been missing.

Watching the video for Business Time or D*ck in a Box (yes, the censored version is funnier).

Shaking it out, from head to toe. Followed by some jumping up & down & yelling. Yes, I'm an actor.

Taking a nap.

Honoring – nay, embracing! – the funk until I've had enough, then declaring, “Suck it, funk!” (OK, I haven't actually done this, but I'm so gonna do it now)

Experiencing the present.

Writing about said funk & how I can kick it's butt any day of the week.

A big hug from my husband & fishing for compliments.

How do you get out of a funk?

As you can probably tell by my last 2 posts, I was in a bit of one myself last week. So not only do I want your secrets for totally selfish purposes, but because I realized that the more you know about how you fight the funk, the quicker you'll scare it off when it arrives. So join the conversation in the comments section while I play that funk-y music (sorry, I just couldn't help it)!

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1 person. 12 session. $0. Announcing the 2nd Annual When I Grow Up Scholarship!

Get Danielle LaPorte's Nuggets of Genius in your own home, on your own time. Announcing the Digital Firestarter Sessions from my “cult leader.”

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1. Tough (Question) Tuesday: How can you give yourself a boost?
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3. Tough (Question) Tuesday: How can you accept what's beyond your control?

Motivation Note Cards by watersounds

Most people talk about The Best as it's this known, established Fact. The Best Actor of our generation? Sean Penn. Or Robert Downey Jr. Or Heath Ledger. Or Sasha Baron Cohen…..or…..

Acknowledging the fact that being The Best is totally subjective, & chucking all sense of ego out the window, answer this tough question:

Why are you The Best?

Share your answer in the comments – me & my big head will start. See you & your big head there!

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Success Watercolor by Stephanie Corfee

In answer to the above question: You (that's who)!

I loved loved loved the conversation about passion that sparked from last week's Tough (Question) Tuesday, & it made my mind wander over from the word “passion” (whether or not you believe in it, what it consists of, if it's a loaded word, what it means to you personally) over to the word “success”, & just hafta ask:

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1. Tough (Question) Tuesday: Do you believe in “passion”?
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Passion Fine Art Print by Lovely Journey

Lately, a fairly large chunk of my clients, when asked what they're passionate about, have remarked along the lines of, “There's nothing I like doing so much I want to commit to it, and therefore I'm not passionate about anything.” I've so far replaced this word with two clients – one now uses “like-like” & the other uses “abundance” – to take away it's weight, it's heft, it's seriousness. I've even gotten a few, “I don't think there's such a thing.” As someone who's living my passion after living another passion, & who took great pains in finding a new passion when the old one – while still a great love of my life – faded, I've been fairly taken aback by these responses.

So I have to ask:

Do you believe in passion?

And some follow-up questions:

If not, why?

Is it something you believe in, but feel is a super loaded, scary word?

If you do believe in it, are there conditions?

What does “passion” mean to you?

Answer this tough question & any/all/some/most/none of the follow-ups in the comments section, & I'll meet ya there. If you can't tell, I'm super curious about this, so I'm super looking forward to your thoughts & insights!

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